Welcome to the Visions Counseling Center, we help people to see their inner emotional prison of depression, anger or anxiety. Yes, I would like to schedule an appointment as I am caught up in my feelings. What is your name? My name is Anger, well Anger I have an opening for next week, we will have to complete an intake then we can schedule you a counseling appointment. Sounds good to me, said Anger with an attitude. Wow, said Lissie Ann upon ending the phone call, she sure is angry, once the thought left her mind, she hears the telephone again. Yes, this is Visions Counseling Center, and before she could say anything, she heard crying, Ma’ am can I help you.. MA’AM!! I am a man, and my name is Frustration, and I hope you can help me. I am not really sure now, as you just called me a lady. "Good gracious" thinks Lissie, she ends the telephone call. Then she calls Forgiveness in her office. Yes, Lissie, says Forgiveness. I need to take a break, and will you cover the front desks for me. Of course, said Forgiveness with a smile.
The following week, Forgiveness, has an intake with Anger. Hello Anger, I am forgiveness, and I will be the person helping you. Forgiveness, that is what your parents named you said Anger. Yes, My creator blessed me with this name, and Forgiveness takes a deep breath, and looks at Anger. In a nice calm voice, Forgiveness says, Anger, are you ready? Ready for what? Said Anger, to meet yourself, Ready to do the work to surrender your pain and hurt, and ready to start living instead of existing said forgiveness. Anger replied you do not know me, to tell me all those things! Anger, I do know you, you have just forgotten me, we met years ago. You have the right to work with another person or you can continue the journey with Forgiveness. You are alright, I guess, and I just do not remember you. Anger Starts her journey with disclosing or spilling the tea as she calls it. Well, my parents, I was raised by my aunt, and she was good, but I am frustrated with my parents. They were abusive, they left us for hours and sometimes we did not have food to eat, or clean clothes to wear to school. We went to school hungry and dirty and got teased by the other kids, and my life has been one mistake after another. I got pregnant young and my baby ended up in foster care, and I am still trying to get her back, but they accused me of abusing her, and I did not! She looked as if she wanted to cry, but held the tears. I did hit her, but she was going to die playing with electricity. Anger with her head down, said “I am tired, I am alone, and I am so angry that I could scream”, help me.
Anger, your resentment towards your parents appear to be honestly earned, and what you went through is very traumatic, and as we know it, unfair. You said, you are tired, alone and angry, and in my professional opinion, your anger is helping you feel this way. Do you agree? Yes, said Anger with one tear rolling down her eyes. Forgiveness continues, the gift of forgiveness is for you! It allows the pain to leave your body or inner self, and allows healing to arrive. Are you willing to forgive your parents? Forgiveness does not mean that you will once again connect with them, but it means that your past won't control you anymore. Anger, crossed her arms, lifted her head and said, why should I forgive them when I still have physical scars from their abuse? Forgiveness said, you have free will, you can forgive or keep your hot anger which is slowly killing you. When you do not surrender that resentment, when you do not surrender that anger you lose the battle, you lose your peace and some happiness, and the impact on your health is overwhelming. Anger did not want to admit forgiveness was right. Are we done? Yes, Said Forgiveness, I hope you will return because Anger, you are already doing the work, you just have to continue on the journey. Anger smiled for the first time in a long time.
Lissie beeps in to tell the social worker her next appointment has arrived, and gives a little warning that he is wearing all orange, and he is crying. The Social worker meets her next client, who is Frustration right at the door. Hello Frustration, but before Forgiveness could introduce herself, his cries got louder. She could only say, What's up? What is going on here? Everything is wrong? Says Frustration. Wow, said Forgiveness, everything! Yes, said Frustration. On a scale of 1 to 10, how frustrated are you, said the social worker? 10+ stated frustration. Ok, now that we have a baseline, said the social worker, let's work together to decrease your frustration level and help you remain calm and in control. Frustration tries to explain why he is so emotional that he is losing control, I just want to hide and not deal with the world. The world can be a cruel place, they label me in all kinds of ways instead of just calling me by my name. The social worker asked, Can you please provide an example, unless it is too painful to share? Well, I am biracial and people call me Zebra. When you hear the word Zebra, what emotions can you identify with-in yourself? Anger, frustration and anxiety because I am afraid and I want to be accepted. Are you willing to do an exercise with me, frustration? Yes, said Frustration. Can you please provide a positive word for the letter Z? Now, Can you provide a positive word for the letter e?
(Z) for zealous, (E) easy going, (B) Brilliant, (R)Radiant, (A)Admirable
Thank you for participating in that exercise, when a person calls you Zebra, you break down the negative word and make it and empowering word Z.E.B.R.A which means zealous, easy going, Brilliant, Radiant, Admirable, know that you can change the words as needed. Wow, I love it and I absolutely love it, said the client.
This exercise can be used, during the testing of life, so you are prepared for the world’s negativity, by turning this negative situation into a positive situation, and completing self love at the same time, said the social worker.
As many have said, it is not the story that others tell you about yourself, which should upset you, but it is the story that you believe about yourself.
Identify two things that you like about yourself, one physical trait and one personality trait. Frustration lowered his head. Forgiveness observed his change in his demeanor, and explained that self love is important, if you do not like yourself then when the world is cruel to you, it can break you. And counseling is about releasing pain, getting healing and building up emotional strength for this journey called life. Frustration took a deep breath and said, I am not sure what I like about myself. That is concerning said, the social worker, I have to tell you that I am impressed with your ability to seek assistance, and willingness to try something new. Frustration smiled and agreed to work on identifying two things that he likes about himself. After Frustration left the office, it was quiet, Lissie had left for the day. Forgiveness, kneel down and prayed to the creator. Heavenly Father, I am praying for Anger and Frustration to decrease, so God you can increase and help them find peace, love and joy success, In Jesus’s name I pray. As Forgiveness stood up, a light appeared, a holy and loving light, and it said Forgiveness my dear, you have to start working on forgiveness too, to teach you must learn, to grow you must surrender. Frustration’s life has changed and he will continue to grow and do better, but Anger is in danger of losing her soul, the work has just started, and her vision is still not clear. And the light was gone. Forgiveness sat and thought,it's hard to be the light in a sea of darkness, and it's hard to be the helper among the ill as you can become bitter. I guess I am bitter too.
Help is available :
988 call or text or visit website at 988lifeline.org /and complete a chat. You are uniquely and individually designed and some people are truly rarely.. don’t give up, keep pressing on. It’s hard, I know! you are strong I believe.
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